Monday, January 21, 2013

what Ricky Lo taught me


Woe to the writer who cannot start, let alone keep a conversation going.AA Patawaran, Write Here Write Now

Interviewing a subject is part of writing. One cannot write without materials hence, make the most out of the interview, ask questions—as many queries as you can—and do not assume. Ask.

In most cases, a subject has apprehensions and reservations. It is the task of the interviewer to dig deep and let the subject feel at ease and let her hair and/or his guard down.

However, this seemingly simple task of asking questions about a subject is not as easy as it seems. Apparently, even the most experienced journalist, writer, host, or columnist may fall into the trap of an awkward and scrambled interview session.

Recently, local writer/columnist Ricky Lo made a headline for his controversial interview with Les Miz star Anne Hathaway. The interview was gauche and trying hard, you can sense it and you can see it in the eyes of Anne and Ricky. Some blame it on the “cultural differences” that made the four-minute interview session a slapdash.



#SelfNotes:


  • 1.    Smile. Who wouldn’t sport his/her megawatt smile when Anne Hathaway is around? Ricky Lo hardly smiles.



  • 2.    Project a lively image. Lo was way too serious, maybe he was nervous?



  • 3.    Keep calm and not stutter. Lo dropped his phone during the interview and he was struggling to voice out his questions.



  • 4.    Drop the links—if the subject said something about something ask about it. E.g.
 “Q: What do you do during free time?”
“A: I do a lot during free time. I basically allot it for ‘me-time.’”

A good conversationalist would ask to elaborate the vague answer while a mediocre             interviewer would rather move on to the question he formulated at the back of his mind. This leads us to the last lesson.


  • 5.    While it is good to note down interview questions, AA Patawaran said in his book, “Write Here Write Now,” that it is better to throw away all the questions formulated and just listen to the conversation. Questions will come out naturally. Ricky Lo was busy reading his questions while Anne was still explaining something.



Tuesday, January 15, 2013

i want to grow old with you


Writers and journalists, well some, are often portrayed in movies as career-orientated, 24/7 on call, thus loveless. I fear though, that this portrait is becoming truer. I know three lady journalists and one male writer who still remain single (either by choice, fate, or Mr. and Ms. Right hasn't come yet) even at ‘mature’ age.

I do not want to end up like them.

I love my career, but I am also in love with the thought of finding love, but—

The problem is, I am (temporarily) dodging this so-called ‘happiest and greatest emotion on earth,’ because I want to focus on my job first. I fear though that by the time I feel I am ready to commit to landi moments, the boylets are nowhere to be found.

from Aspieweb.net

Sure, there are men in the office who want to get to know me but I do not want to landi back—not yet.

Today, I met a 70-year old woman journalist who, by choice, stayed single. She seemed happy and healthy although she was carrying a walking aide (baston) with her. However, I am guessing that deep down, at the back of her mind, at most mundane moments, she feels lonely, incomplete, unhappy. I believe we ought to find our better half, someone we will grow old with.

I do not want to end up like her.

My office mate who got married at an early age (25, if my memory serves me right) encourages me to date as many men as I can handle. At the age of 21, I should be thinking of marriage, he said. I laughed.

from google photos
I do not want to remain single, of course. I want to get married before I reached 30. 

Our department is planning to come up with an additional page for the Lifestyle section. The coming love month inspired our editors to publish a special Valentine issue; I was tasked to do a ‘boyfriend-girlfriend wish list.’ In addition to that, I am currently assigned to our “Better Half” issue. Every Sunday, we publish love stories of married couples. Their love and life anecdotes inspire me, leave me in awe, and make me believe that someday, l-o-v-e (this four-letter word that makes the world go round), will also come my way.

I do not want to remain single by the time I have wrinkles.  

Ah, the thoughts that February 14 makes! 

Saturday, January 12, 2013

This is why the book is better than the film (mostly)…


Yann Martel’s novel, “Life of Pi,” is a five-star rater in Goodreads. It is a story of friendship, fate, and religion rolled into one without being too preachy.

The book lovers, moviegoers, curious and whatnots rejoiced on the idea that it is to be adapted into a film by no less than, director Ang Lee of the Brokeback Mountain and Crouching Tiger Hidden Dragon.  Life of Pi even trended in Twitter (but blurs the line if it headlined because people want to see it or rather because of memes that is finally, Cherry Pie Picache (one of Philippines’ renowned actors) will have a biographical movie). 
Nonetheless, my friend and I went to the cinema last night. We both have read the novel.

In fairness to Lee, the film was able to stay true and breathe life to the journey and perils of Pi and Richard Parker, the Bengal tiger. It was an eye candy of sorts when the written words in the novel materialized, right before our very eyes. The animated animals seemed natural, breathing, eating,  gnawing…

The only caveat though for moviegoers who failed to read the book first was that the movie adaptation may perhaps bore them. Almost all the scenes were monologues and sometimes exchanges of lines between Pi and the journalist (who wanted to write down his amazing journey).

This is not a movie of shallow form, if you want a dose of laughter or cheesy lines and corny moments watch MMFF film entries instead, they are still showing. The Life of Pi is a movie for the intent listener and smart audience.  It did not disappoint.

But as for me, there’s something lacking, which I could not pinpoint. Maybe because I have read the novel first, have imagined, and directed the scenes on my mind, long before I queued in the theaters.

What mattered most was Lee's effort to stay true to the novel.

P.S. Les Miserables next! 

Tuesday, January 8, 2013

weddings and happy endings


What is it with weddings that make you cry? Or maybe it is just me, an emotional creature. But I think people who don’t like happy-ever-after stories, fairy tales, and weddings either have their heart broken a thousand times or are just plain Grinch.

Today, January 8, a day before the feast of the Black Nazarene, my office mate Kuya Caloy and his girlfriend of 13 years, Jenny, tied the knot. They are high school sweethearts. I do not know their love story but what’s more important is they ended up together.

The marriage rite wasn’t grandiose, few selected people witnessed the union of Carlos and Jennifer. But it was memorable on its own right. Their vows were heartfelt and delivered in Filipino, which made it more meaningful and 'relatable'. Of course, it was sealed with a kiss (and some photo ops).

Everybody—office mates, relatives, friends, spectators—was sporting smiles and best wishes.

What is it with weddings really that pull our heartstrings and make us believe on the power of love?  

Ah, it is good to be in love.

Friday, January 4, 2013

sugar-rushed by your reading...


My heart started to skip a beat when I saw a girl reading a book in a jeepney on our way to Quiapo.  Not because she was reading on a moving vehicle (haha!)—which reminded me of my mom on how she used to scold me whenever I read in a car—but, because she was holding a book published by my former publication company and she was reading it intently.

Well, not really long ago, I just resigned from that company five months ago. I wasn’t able to see the title though, if I once handled and edited that reading material. But it was okay, at least someone’s reading our book!  And she was so engrossed. She almost missed her destination.

I was of course kilig. Wait, what’s the English word for that? I Google translate it before and said ‘hoity toity’ was its English version. But, I doubt it! ‘Hoity toity’ means frivolous, right? Mr. Webster said so.

But then I remembered Kuya Kim said on his Twitter account that kilig means sugar-rushed in English.

So there, I was sugar-rushed!

I did not write the book but at least I knew how it felt like to be an author. I was sugar-rushed by that fateful Saturday morning when I was on my way to my new work.  




Tuesday, January 1, 2013

* lucky [20] thirteen


A re-blog from Sense and Style Editor in Chief and author of  Write Here Write Now, Mr. AA Patawaran 



To rock 2013, all writers, such as you and me, must resolve to be better at writing. Here are thirteen ways to do it.
1. WRITE DAILY You can devote an hour a day or maybe even just fifteen minutes, as long as you do it every day. Some say you should devote the same time to writing every day, but in my book, based on my experience writing Write Here Write Now: Standing At Attention Before My Imaginary Style Dictator, you can do it any time you can, tonight before you sleep, tomorrow during a lull in your New Year’s Eve celebration, as long as you do it every day. You will be surprised how far easier writing becomes when you put it into practice on a daily basis.
2. READ OFTEN All writers are readers first. It was through reading that you first found the motivation to write. No matter how busy you are, make it a point to read as often as you can. It’s not enough to read the newspapers in the morning. It’s not enough to read for information. You must read for leisure, for pleasure, for the joy of words and thoughts and wisdom and inspiration. Plan a weekend of relaxation at the beach and read in the shade of a coconut tree. At night, in bed, at bedtime, read a chapter or two or three of a novel or biography, anything well-written, fiction or non-fiction.
3. MEDITATE Or pray. Or just be still and quiet for ten minutes each day. Spend these precious minutes emptying out your mind, giving it a rest, which is the only way to reconnect with that infinite universe, that bottomless ocean of resources, that resides inside you. You may enrol in a yoga class or hire a meditation guru or you can simply find a quiet corner in the house or in your room and sit there and not think of anything. It’s not about not having any thoughts. It is against your nature to have no thoughts, to have a mind that is completely empty even for just a second. So let the thoughts come and invade your silence. Let them be, but don’t dwell on any of them. I used to pretend I was at the bottom of the ocean and each thought I would imagine to be a bubble. I guide the bubble from my mind to the surface of my imagined ocean, where it pops out of existence, and I wait for the next thought. Sometimes, the same thought keeps coming, sometimes different ones come along. Sometimes, the thought engages me for a while and then I remind myself to bring it up to the surface. It’s a great way to see what thoughts consume you without being consumed by them, at least until the meditation hour ends.
4. TAKE CONTROL Life has a way of making you feel hostage to certain circumstances. Maybe your computer is about to break down. Maybe there is no place in the house or in the office in which to write. Maybe you feel left out or irrelevant, like “everybody’s changing, but you still feel the same,” to borrow from Keane. Maybe you feel you have yet to live enough and therefore have yet to find your own story. These things are real, not a figment of your imagination, but it doesn’t mean you can be paralyzed by any of them. Take control, be the captain of your own ship. If you feel you have nothing to say (or write), the more you have to say something and prove to yourself, more than to anybody else, that you are wrong. Most likely, you are wrong. You are a story. The fact that you are here makes you a story, a unique one, in this book of life and you only have to hunker down to write the pages and tell it.
5. ENGAGE Writing is an introspective, solitary experience, but it is out there, where you have to live your life, talk to people, interact with both friends and foes, foster solid bonds, fall in love or fall out of it, that you gather the material you need in order to write something of substance. Don’t be a hermit. Don’t live out your life vicariously through your fictional heroes or your TV characters.  Maybe you are shy, but push yourself. Get involved with the people around you. Ask questions. Engage in conversation. Go out there and live and be.
6. POWER UP YOUR VOCABULARY While the best way to do this is to read, read, read, you  need to make conscious effort in making new words become a part of your arsenal of communication weapons on a regular basis. Read and listen, but make sure to take down notes. Look up the meaning of words you encounter that are unfamiliar to you. Do it by way of flash cards or simply note the words down and try to use each of them when the occasion calls for it. Invest also in self-help books, in grammar manuals, in books intended to teach you how to write well or take down notes or facilitate an interview or format a screenplay, anything to help you specialize in any field of writing or expression.
7. MOVE As a writer, your mind is of utmost importance but so is your health, so is your body. Physical exercises not only keep you in top shape, it also boosts your confidence and keeps your mind as active as your body. If nothing else, an exercise regimen increases your brain’s oxygen supply and gets the blood flowing to give you enough energy for your duel with words — and the blank page.
8.  ENRICH YOURSELF Always keep your sense of wonder alive. See, hear, touch, smell, and taste as much of life as you can. Meet new people and be open to what they have to show you. Go to museums. Watch movies, Don’t get stuck in the music of your youth. Listen to all that’s new. Travel. Drop all your first-class requirements and just open yourself up to adventure, if you have to ride a rickety old bus to get there or to book yourself to a zero-star inn to experience it. Try exotic food. Learn a new language. Take up a new sport. Open your car windows once in a while no matter how they warn you of the dangers that lurk there. Organize a tea party with your neighbors. Go to the clubs and dance. Say hello at the risk of being ignored or snubbed (More likely, it’s their loss not yours). Just open your eyes.
9. SEE YOUR WORLD WITH FRESH EYES But it’s not enough to keep your eyes open. Take notice of everything around you, take interest, especially of those you might have taken for granted, those in your immediate surroundings, your mother maybe or the flowering plants in the backyard. To me, the greatest indication of mediocrity or the descent to mediocrity is a “been there, done that” attitude. Life is an infinite vastness, so if you’re beginning to feel like you’ve been there, done that, it only means you have stayed too long in your comfort zone.
10. DAYDREAM Have you noticed that the power of your daydreams has waned as you got older? If not, good for you. If yes, better do something about it. Most likely, the power is the same but you’re not. There are just too many things that distract you now, that keep you from focusing on the moment, even if the moment, such as this lazy Sunday or the quarter of an hour between meetings, is there for the taking. Remember that as a writer it will serve you well to hold down your thoughts longer than usual or at least long enough to explore them and pluck them out of the realm of possibilities and commit them on the page, where, there at least, you can turn them from dream to reality.
11. PLAY Don’t be too serious. Writers have fun, too. Allow yourself to have fun. Read trash, if you wish — watch a B movie, sing along to a pop song. Some things do not need your critical thinking or your high standards. You need to have fun and you’re not going to get any if you feel it is in your nature as a writer to be overly critical of everything.
12. FORGET INSPIRATION Forget it at least as a requirement for writing. Whether you have it or not, you have to write, especially when there’s a deadline to beat or to meet. Respect the deadline, whether it is set by others, such as your editor or your publisher or a co-writer, or self-imposed. In my book, Write Here Write Now, I maintain that a deadline gets the work done faster and better than any inspiration, if only because the deadline is always there while inspiration may not be.
13. HAVE A POINT OF VIEW Or take it more seriously and more consciously. A point of view is what sets you apart from every other writer, William Shakespeare included. While it is true that you can only write about life from your own point of view because that’s the only way you see life, it helps to clear up that vantage point, to give it a better angle, a wider perspective or simply to be aware that it is your ace, the one spot in this infinitude that is all yours. See life as you alone would see it, live life as only you would, make sure you are sitting front row center in this spectacular play that is your own life. It’s not easy. You’re never too sure if how you see things is the way they should be seen, which is why you have to do the twelve other things specified on this list. You just have to do all that it takes to be good at what you are doing.
May all the right words be with you in 2013 and always.

new year thoughts...


I have been in my hometown for five years straight but my family and I always find time to go back to our hometown in Laguna, where I spend most of my formative years. We always go back to our roots, they say.

It is a fresh sight to see tall buildings, new restos, coffee shops, malls that have not been there when I used to traverse the paths of my simple city. Change is inevitable, they say.

Transformations, too, happen to me when I left my birthplace to study. The first year of my new residency bought new perspectives. I’ve been consciously watching the words I utter ever since my friend drew attention to the way I speak. Apparently, I got a provincial accent, where I always start my verbs with ‘na’—nakain, nainom, nalakad when I suppose to mean kumakain, umiinom, lumalakad.

I embraced the changes out of fear and judgment perhaps, that people will never accept me. Change is good, they say.

So whenever I find myself in my hometown again, I am no longer the girl I used to be, at least in the way I speak. And my hometown is no longer the way I used to picture it.

But I will always find comfort in my home. Nothing feels like home, they say.

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From the City of Seven Lakes with love, happy New Year!